During years, practically a quarter of my life I have felt so attracted to all sorts of media. everything started when I was 18 years old. No one at home used the computer like I did. I even used to go to bed so late chatting with strangers.
with 19 years of online dating experience I could tell you that there still so many things to learn about it. There are so many people on these sites that at some point you think you know all type of personalities and techniques that people use to meet others or to get a quick hook up but suddenly you meet a new person and you realize that you have not learned not even a bit. and a new lesson is learned each time you meet someone on these online dating sites. Then we are crying for someone who from the beginning we knew it would not work but because you have been single for such a long time and your relationships have been short and unsuccessful for the past years that you still hope that someday you will meet someone who is worth it.
My understanding is that online dating sites were created to meet people on a easier way. I remember that before we had to go out to a bar, buy drinks, dance all night to meet people. Most of the time we used to meet people when we were with friends and some times drunk. That was the way to meet strangers but now it is so easy to meet people online but at the same time is very difficult. Now a guy doesn't even take the time to walk to the bar and to buy a drink for you but instead he just knock on your door and he arrives with 2 bottles of wine.
I have met all sort of guys.. The one who was just looking for sex.. oh yes the grand majority of men lol those who just want to get in your pants without even know your real name.. They sometimes even called you by your online dating nick name..lol.. Run away from those type of men. The second type of guys are the ones who just came out of a long relationship. so, the are in complete desperation to meet someone because they are emotionally dependent from others and they think they can't be happy if they are by themselves. Run away from this type of guys too.
One more type of online dating guys are those ones who know exactly how to talk to women. they say the perfect words and they just say what women want to hear. Most of the time these guys are the guys who are just catching desperate women. However, even women who are very confident have fall for men like that (I am one of those).
Then after weeks, months and years of being looking for your prince on those online dating sites you realize that you become a player. yes like u read u become the player but hoping you will meet someday the right person.
After years of not writing in my blog. I decided to finish this article today. Well guess what? last year in Feb 2017 I decided that I would not look pretty for randoms guys who I have never met in person. In fact I decided to wear pijamas or very casual clothes in our first date or catch up. I was in my house and I joined Tinder, POF and other sites. Everyone says that these sites are only for hook ups. However, I think there are all sorts of people in all these online dating sites. I decided to join some sites again. I started to meet with guys but this time I used to asked them to come to my house. I also, asked them to send me their ID or a screen shot of their License, phone number, Facebook etc because I would not risk inviting someone who I don't know into my house.
Surprisingly, the men who visited me in my house and who saw me dressed up casual are the ones who started to be very interested in meeting with me more. In fact I met my husband in one of those dates. He came to my unit. I was wearing my pijamas shorts, a singlet, my hair was a mess, not make up. and Boom I am married now. That was the key to be casual, to no care at all. 19 years joining online dating sites since I was 18 and got the message until I was 37. I want to write the whole story but that will be in my next article.
